商務(wù)禮儀之餐桌禮儀英文版課件tablemanners

ChapterVTableMannersWarm-up:WatchandDiscussHaveyoueverwatchedTitanic?Besidesthetouchinglovestory,haveyoulearnedanythingabouttablemanners?Let’slookbackonthisclassicmovie,andthendiscussaboutwesterntablemanners.

ContentsArrivingforDinner1PlacingOrders2FormalPlaceSettings3AFormalDinner

4Objective

GetfamiliarwithalltherulesinplacingordersFaceaformaldinnerina

gracefulwayGettoknowhowtomakegoodpreparationsbeforegoingtodinnersGetfamiliarwithalltheeatingutensilsandtheirfunctionsaswellastheirplaceatthetableArriving

for

DinnerArrivingtooearlyisrudeWithin10-15minutesoftheearlieststatedtimeIfyouarerunning15minuteslateAtlessformaldinners

AGuest’sPre-PlanningAneffortwithyourappearanceAtformaldinnersCallthehostessDonotbringagiftatallBringsomethingthatisnotneededCheckwiththehostessaboutthedresscodeGuestsareseatedalternatingmenandwomen

SeatingProtocolAsingletableGuests’numberevenlydividedbyfourhostandhostessattheoppositeendsMaleguestofhonortotherightofthehostess;femaleguestofhonortotherightofthehostMaleguestofhonoroppositethehost;hostesstotheleftofhim

Host’sseatfacingthedooratabusinessdinner

Firstworkingroupsofsix.Refertothediagramsinyourtext-booksforthevisualizedseatingprotocolandtrytomemorizetheexactplacesofeachperson.Nowcloseyourbooksandrole-playthehostsandtheguests,toseeifallofyoucanbeseatedappropriately.Thenincreasethegrouptoeight,thentoten.Andtrytochangeyourplacesaccordingly.In-classActivity:Placing

OrdersAtaRestaurantErronthesideofsafetyandordersomethingnon-alcoholicIfyouareaskedfirsttoorderthedrink1Medium-pricedFoodyouknowEasytoeat2

Guidelinesforfoodorderthemenupre-arranged,youhaveaspecialneed,3Don’tmakeabigdealoutofitOrderwhatyouwant,there’snothingyouhavetoorder.Say“nothankyou〞Say“Nothankyou〞4Appetizers,Soup,Salad,Entrée主菜

Heaviest,heartiest,themostcomplex

Sweet,strongflavor,cheese,cake,ice-creamStarters

MainCourseDessert

DecodingtheMenuWhiteWine

WhiteMeat,fish,chicken

RedMeat,beef,portDessertRedWineRicholdSherryTheMatchofWineandFoodWhiteWineAseven-coursemenu:In-classActivityFirstrefertothesampleseven-coursemenuinyourtext-booksandmemorize.Nowtrytomatchthepicturesandputthemintheappropriateorder:7.ClearSoup6.Oysters2.Desserts1.fruit3.GameandVegetables5.BeefandVegetables4.SaladB.ClaretA.Sherry雪利酒E.Chablis沙布利酒C.BurgundyD.ChampagneFormalPlaceSettingTheGlasswareWaterGoblet〔高腳杯〕BrandySnifter〔窄口杯〕TheFlatwareRestaurant/DinnerForkTableFork,EuropeanSizeSaladForkOyster/Cocktail(開(kāi)胃菜)ForkFishFork,H.H.Restaurant/DinnerKnife,H.H.Restaurant/DinnerKnife.1-pc,HeavySteakKnife.1-pc,HeavyFishKnife,H.H.ButterSpreader/TeaKnifeButterSpreader.1-pc,HeavyTeaspoonBouillon肉湯SpoonDessert/OvalBowlSoupSpoonRoundBowlSoupSpoonIcedTeaSpoonCoffeeSpoonDinnerSpoon,EuropeanSizeTablespoon/ServingSpoonTheChinaware1.Dinnerplate2.Saladplate3.Cup4.Saucer5.Bread-and-butterplate6.Charger7.Dessertplate8.Soupbowl

Napkin,Fingerbowl,andSaltandPeppershakerFingerbowlACompleteIllustrationThesaladknifemaynotbeneeded.Atatraditionallyformalmeal,thereisnobutterplate,ordessertspoonandfork.Breadtraditionallywasnotservedwithformalmeals,andthedessertforkandspoonwouldbepresentedwiththefingerbowls.NotethattheabovesettingistheEuropeanStylewherethesaladiseatenattheend.Americanswilltypicallyplacethesaladforklefttothefishforkandthesaladkniferighttothefishknife.TheillustrationbelowshowsyouanAmericanformalplacesetting.WatchtheVideo-clipandThenDoityourself!Putthematinfrontofthechair.Puttheplateinthecenter.

Puttheforkontheleft.

Puttheknifeontheright.

Putthewaterglassaboveandrightoftheplate.

Putthenapkinontheplate,centered.

StepTwoStepThreeStepOneFacingaFormalDinnerGracefullyAlltherulesoftablemannersaremadetoavoidugliness.Toletanyoneseewhatyouhaveinyourmouthisrepulsive討厭,tomakeanoiseistosuggestananimal,tomakeamessisdisgusting—EmilyPostLunch/DinnerHostConsiderpreferencesofguestsGivespecificsMakereservationandreconfirmdaybeforeArrive10-30minearly,lookattable,meetserverGreetguestsatentrance.Guestprecedesdownaisle.Guestgetsbestseat.Seatyourselftotheirleft.Offermenuadvicetoguests,ordereasy-to-eatfoodandlimitdrinksforyourselfLunch/DinnerGuestReplypromptlytoinvitationOnlycancelonveryurgentbusinessBeontime—callrestaurantandsendmessagetohostiflateIfyouarrivebeforehost,youmaysitattablebuteatnothingbutwateruntilhostarrivesNeverorderthemostexpensiveitemTakenonoticeofcheck.DoNOToffertoleavetipThankyourhost!YouareSeated.

BeforeEating

BeforeSittingdown

Leavethecocktails餐前開(kāi)胃菜

wheretheyare.VisittherestroomforfinishingtouchesHostandthefemaleguestofhonorenterthediningroomfirst;whilehostessandthemaleguestofhonorenterlast

Waitforthehosttomakethefirstnapkinmove.Putthenapkinonyourlap.Keepalargernapkinunfoldedandnever“flap擺動(dòng)〞tounfoldit.Astraightback;feetfirmlyplantedonthefloorinfrontofyou;andelbowsandforearmsoffthetable.Followthehostess’slead.UseeatingutensilsproperlyHoldtheforkhorizontallybybalancingitbetweenthefirstknuckle節(jié)ofthemiddlefingerandthetipoftheindexfingerwhilethethumbsteadiesthehandle.

Theknifeontheotherhandisusedwiththetipoftheindexfingerleaningonthebladeoftheknife.Donotapplytoomuchpressure;simplyuseitasleverageandguidance.

Holdthespoonlikeholdapencil.Afteryouhavestirredyourdrinks,removethespoonandplaceitontheservingplateunderneath.Ifthereisnoservingplate,placethespoononyourplate.KnifeSpoonForkAFingerbowlWhentouse?Afterthemaincourse.Howtouse?Dipyourfingersgentlyintothewarmwaterandrinse沖洗themlightly.Whytouse?Cleanyourfingersafterastickyormessymeal,suchasribs肋骨friedchicken,orcorn-on-the-cob〔棒〕.Shallow淺

roundbowlplacedatopalargerplate,filledwithwarmwater;Lemonwheelsfloatedinthewater.WhentheDinnerisServed

TheorderofServingThefemaleguestofhonorisservedfirst.TheServermoverstotherightorcounterclockwise.Allfoodisservedfromtheleft,whileallthedrinksareservedfromtheright.Theserverservesfromtheleft,andpicksupfromtheright.

BeforetheMainCourseisServedWhentostart?Waituntilthehostessliftsherforkasthesignaltobegineating.Placethebreadandbutteronyourbutterplate,thenbreakoffabite-sizedpieceofbread,putalittlebutteronit,andeatit.Appetizersareeatenwithaforkandknife

Dipthespoonintothesouptogetaspoonfulwithamotionthattakesthespoonawayfromyouratherthantowardyou.Sorbet果汁冰糕isservedbetweenthefishandmeatcoursestoclearthepalate.Ifitisservedwithagarnish配菜,youmayeatthemintleaves,freshherbs,orflowerpetals花瓣.ConversationChatonlybrieflywiththoseseatedseveralplacesaway(sothepersoninthemiddledoesnothavetoleanbackward).Donotyell大聲喊叫totheendsofthetable.Givethepersonyou’respeakingtoyourundivided(全心的關(guān)注)attention.Keepamentalcheckthatyouaren’ttalkingtoomuchyourself.Giveequaltimetothepersonsittingonyourleftandyourright.Avoiddiscussingpolitics,religion,money,orsexatthetable.Alsoavoidanycontroversialsubjectsthatmayfalloutsideofthescopeofthosethreetopics.Donotcorrectotherpeopleatanything.Givethanksfortheservice.IfyoutakeabreakorleavethetableduringthemealWhenyouhavefinishedeatingToastingWhoproposesatoast?Thehostproposesatoastfirst.Ifthehosthasstagefright怯場(chǎng),itisacceptabletohavehisorherspousemakethetoast.Theguestofhonororanyguestwhohasbeentoastedshouldtoastthehostinreturn.Inothercases,aguestmayalsoproposeatoast,butonlyafterthehost.Whentotoastandforwhat?Thehostoftenproposesatoastatthebeginningofthemeal,welcomingaguesttoit.Thetoastmayalsooccurinthemiddleofthemeal,whenthehostraisesaglasstotheguestofhonoronhisorherright.Insteadofofferingthetoastatthebeginning,thehostmightwanttowaituntiltheend.Inthatcase,heorshewouldstandandtoasttheguestofhonor.Toasts

Likeawoman'sskirt,theyshouldbelongenoughtocoverthesubject,butshortenoughtobeamusing.Usuallytranslatesintoaboutoneminute.Anexampleofanexcellenttoast:“Ithinkthisisthemostextraordinarycollectionoftalent,ofhumanknowledge,evergatheredattheWhiteHouse,withthepossibleexceptionofwhenThomasJeffersondinedherealone.〞Atypicalwelcomingtoast:“Iamsopleasedthatyouallcouldbeheretoshareeachother'sgoodcompanyandthisgoodfood.Welcome.〞(atthebeginningofthemeal)Or“IamsopleasedthatyoucouldallbeheretowelcomemydearfriendFlorence,who'scomeallthewayfromRometovisit.〞(inthemiddle)Or“It'swonderfultohaveFlorencewithustonight.Let'stoastararewomanwholooksateverysituationinlifeasanopportunitytogiveofherself,tomakethingsbetter,happier,andmorefun.ToFlorence.〞(attheend)BeverageChoiceToastingtraditionallyinvolvesalcoholicbeverages.Champagne(oratleastsomevarietyofsparkingwine)isregardedasespeciallyfestiveandiswidelyassociatedwithNewYear’sEveandsituationsofasudden,congratulatorynature(suchaslearningthatonehasgainedalucrativebusinesscontract).Thereisnorequirementthatbeveragescontainalcohol,butitisn'tuncommonforapersonwhoisnotdrinkingalcoholonagivenoccasiontotakejustasipofanalcoholicbeverageinhonorofthetoastinpreferencetoasoftdrink.Often,differentparticipantshavedifferentdrinks,suchaswhensomepeopledrinksparkingcider蘋(píng)果酒

insteadofsparklingwine.

Do’sandDon’ts

Domakeatoastevenifyouarenotdrinkingalcohol.

Dotoastthehostinreturnifyouaretheguestofhonorandarebeingtoasted.

Dotoastmorethanoneperson.

Dokeepyourtoastshort.

Donotevertoastyourself.

Donotpreempt.Thehostshouldbethefirstonetotoast.

Donotreadyourtoast.

Donotclink發(fā)出叮當(dāng)聲glasses.

Donottaptherimofyourglasstogeteverybody'sattention.

StickySituationsSpillingFoodOnYouOnthetableUnwantedFood/TooHotSoiledSilverwareDroppedSilverwareSneezingattheTableFoodCaughtinTeethLunch/Dinner--TaboosElbowsontableSalt/pepperonfoodbeforetastingTalkingwithmouthfullDrinkingwithfoodinmouthGesturingwithsilverwarePushingbackorstackingplatesatendofmealAnsweringorplacingcellphonecallsattableDunkinganythingintocoffeeorwaterMakingafussoverincorrectordersArranginghairorapplyingmakeupattablePickingyourteethatthetableAskingforadoggybagLunch/DinnerMeetings--ExtrasDon’teatwithyourmouthfullKeeponehandinyourlapunlessyouareeatingEuropeanstyleRemoveanythingfromyourmouthwiththesameimplementthatitwentinwith(exceptbones)EatatamoderatespeedTrytomaintainsomepolitedinnerconversationNevermedicate(用藥)yourselfatthetableIfyoumustleavethetable,placeyournapkininyourchairLunch/DinnerMeetings—

EasyendingsKnifeandforksidebysideintheproperpositionondinnerplateThehostorpersonwhohasissuedinvitationpays(regardlessofgender)Ifyouarepayingbill,handleitwithwaitpersonasdiscreetlyaspossibleAsyoudeparttable,refoldyournapkinsimplyandleaveittoleftofplacesettingTippingBartender(whendrinkinginthebar)--$1or15%orroundupbilltonextdollarwhenpayingbytheroundofdrinksBellman〔傳達(dá)員〕--$1perbagCloakroom(衣帽間)attendant–Ifthereisnochargetip$1,ifthereisafeerounduptonearestdollarDoorman(onlyforgettingyouataxi)--$1Maitred’(餐廳領(lǐng)班)(ifyouwantagoodtableorwanttobecomeafavoredregular)--$10-$20inahandshakeParkingValet(伺候)--$1-$2Taxi–15%offareWaitperson(效勞員)–15%-20%ofbillWashroomattendant–50centsor$1.00infancyhotelWinesteward(效勞員)(handeddirectlytosteward)--$3-$5perbottleor15%ofbillwhenbilledseparatelyfromfood

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