職場上15種錯誤的肢體語言

1、職場上15種錯誤的肢體語言在我們真正認識一個人之前，我們的大腦就會依賴草率的判斷以 類化那個人，預估他會做什么事情，并且預想我們該如何做出反應。 也許你曾經(jīng)聽說過你只有短短的幾秒鐘就能留下第一印象，但事實上是，你的大腦已經(jīng)在遇見他們后的幾毫秒內(nèi)就決定了（以此去評判）一個人的印象。根據(jù)普林斯頓大學心理學家的研究，認為這是一種進化的生存機 制。你的大腦由它所擁有的信息所決定；換而言之，你看起來是怎樣 的;你是否值得信賴，還是帶有威脅的，能干的，討人喜歡的或其他 的個人特質(zhì)。有一個可以改變這種瞬間判斷的方法，就是有意識地調(diào)整我們自 己的肢體語言，特別是在重要的場合里。無論你正在申請一份工作， 還是請

2、求加薪，還是與新客戶的見面，調(diào)整或?qū)ψ约旱闹w語言多加 留意，因為這樣會影響到他人對我們的印象以至這個場景的最終結(jié) 果。這是15種需要注意的肢體語言錯誤：1. Lea ning Back too much ; you come off lazy or arroga nt.過度向后倚靠；;使你看起來很懶惰或自大。2. Leaning forward ; can seem aggressive. Aim for a n eutral posture.身體前傾；;看起來有挑釁的意味。應該換一個更中立的姿勢。3. Break ing eye con tact too soon ; can make y

3、ou seem un trustworthy or overly n ervous. Hold eye con tact a hair Ion ger, especially duri ng a han dshake.眼神接觸時間太短；;會使你看起來不可信或過度緊張。應保持稍 長時間的眼神接觸，特別是在握手的時候。4. Noddi ng too much ; can make you look like a bobble head doll! Eve n if you agree with what 's being said, nod once and the n try t

4、o rema in still.點頭太頻繁；;會讓你看起來像一個點頭玩偶！即使你同意對方所 說的，點一次頭并試著保持靜止就可以了。5. Chopp ingor poin ti ngwith your hands ; feelsaggressive.打斷別人說話或用手指著對方；;會看起來很挑釁。6. Crossing your arms ; makes you look defensive, especially whe n you& #39;re an sweri ng questi ons. Try to keepyour arms at your sides.交叉手臂；;讓你顯得自

5、我防御，尤其是在回答問題的時候。盡量 保持你的雙臂在身體的兩側(cè)。7. Fidgeting ; instantly telegraphs how nervous you are. Avoid it at all costs.很多小動作；;瞬間就能顯示你有多么的緊張不安。盡一切所能避免這種情況。8. Holdi ng your hands behi nd your back (or firmly in your pockets) ; can look rigid and stiff. Aim for a n atural, hands at your sides posture.把手放在身后(或緊

6、緊地攥在口袋里);看起來會死板僵硬。換一個 自然的，雙手保持在身體兩旁的姿勢。9. Looking up or looking around ; is a natural cue that some one is lyi ng or not being themselves. Try to hold steadyeye con tact.向上看或到處張望；;這是一個說謊或違心的暗示。盡量保持穩(wěn)定 的眼神交流。10. Stari ng ; can be in terpreted as aggressive. There 's a fine line betwee n hold i

7、ng some one's gaze and stari ng them dow n.目不轉(zhuǎn)睛地瞪著別人；;這有可能會解讀為有侵略性的眼神。保持 眼神接觸和瞪大眼睛的區(qū)別只有一線之差。11. Faili ng to smile ; can make people un comfortable, and won der if you really want to be there. Go for a genuine smile especially whe n meet ing some one for the first time.缺少笑容；;會讓別人感覺不舒服，并且會猜想你是

8、否真的愿意逗 留在這里。嘗試給別人一個真誠的微笑吧，特別是在與他人初次見面 的時候。12. Stepp ing back whe n you& #39;re aski ng for a decisi on ; conv eys fear or un certa in ty. Stand your ground, or eve n take a slight step forward with conv icti on.在詢問決定的時候身體向后退；;傳遞著驚恐和不確定的信息。腳 踏實地，或者甚至可以堅定地向前踏一小步。13. Your fin gers or holdi ng palms

9、 up ; looks like a beggi ng positi on and conv eys weak ness.指尖向上或手心朝上；;看起來像是一個乞求的姿勢，傳遞著軟弱 的信息。14. Standing with hands on hips ; is an aggressive posture, like a bird or a dog puffi ng themselves up to look bigger.站著的時候雙手放在臀部上；;這是一個好斗的姿勢，就像一只小 鳥或小狗鼓吹聲勢讓自己看起來更強大的樣子。15. Checki ng your phone or watch ;

10、 says you want to be somewhere else. Plus, it's just bad manners.查看手機或手表；;意味著你想離開這里到別的地方。再者，這是 不禮貌的動作。So, what should you do? Aim for good posture in a n eutral positi on, whether sitt ing or sta nding. Stand with your arms at your sides, and sit with them at your sides or with your hands in

11、 your lap. Pay attentionso that you naturallyhold eye con tact, smile, and be yourself.那么，你該怎么做呢？應該是這樣：無論是坐著還是站著的時候， 力求保持中立的良好姿勢。站著的時候把雙手放在身旁，坐著的時候 也應如此或者放在大腿上。保持注意力集中這樣才能自然地保持眼神 交流，微笑和展現(xiàn)自己。If you discover you have a particular problem with one ortwo of the gestures on the list, practice by yourself with a mirror or with a frien