compliments-PPT.ppt

1、contents,Positive Functions of Compliments How To Give A Good Compliment How To Respond To Compliments,compliments,Positive Functions of Compliments,Its a good manner to compliment others. A sincere compliment is always a welcome boost to someones day. It helps open up conversations, give people a l

2、ift, and raise ones self-esteem,It takes confidence and self-esteem to notice good things about others and to make the first caring move to tell them about it Youll also find when you start noticing good things about people, youll notice more good things about you too! And the more you do, the more

3、your own self-esteem will grow.,Giving Compliments Raises Your,Self-Esteem,How To Give A Good Compliment Dont praise people, only, what they do Make praise as specific as possible Avoid phony praise Avoid praise that sets up competition,A- Accurate: The compliment has to accurately refer to what has

4、 happened and what the person has done. B Believable: The compliment should not be an exaggeration but realistic. C Constructive: The compliment should refer to what the person wants to achieve and be useful for making progress.,2) Back up your compliment. Dont just stop at “that necklace looks real

5、ly good on you”. Your compliment becomes stronger when you say why you think so; “that necklace looks really good on you because it matches your eyes”.,1) Make your compliment specific. “That necklace looks really good on you” makes a bigger impact compared to “you look really good today”. The more

6、specific the better, it makes the person feel like you notice them.,3) Ask a question with your compliment. And if you want to use it as a conversational starter, ask a question about the subject of your compliment; “that necklace looks really good on you because it matches your eyes. Where did you

7、find it?”. Let me say, you look terrific, your sense of style is spot-on. Are you a designer of some sort?,Cultural values shape the way to respond to compliments. In Japanese culture, the main goal is to appear humble. In English-speaking cultures, the main goal is to show gratitude to the person w

8、ho said such kind words.,How To Respond To Compliments,People from Eastern culture try to reduce the extent of the compliment and always want to appear inferior to others. “ Your dress looks great.” No, its not. Your dress is better than mine.,In Japanese culture, when you are paid a compliment, it

9、is customary to deflect轉(zhuǎn)移 the compliment by speaking badly of oneself: You are very good at the piano!Well, I can only play a few songs.You did a great job!No, it was the efforts of everyone supporting me that made it possible.,Americans usually accept compliments gladly. thanks. that is so kind (re

10、garding a dress) thank you. I got it as a present.,How To Respond To Compliments to graciously accept compliments, praise and thanks from others The easiest way to respond to a compliment is with a simple thank you and a smile.,If the situation requires it, a few additional words may be added. Thank

11、 you, Im glad you enjoyed it.Thank you, I had a lot of help from others in reaching this milestone.Thank you, Im honored by your words.Thank you, your words mean a lot to me.Thank you, thats very kind.,better not denying or playing down compliments If someone gives you a genuine compliment and you r

12、espond with, “Ah, it was nothing,” or some other manner to brush off or play down their compliment, theres nothing wrong with doing this, but it does minimize the amount of joy that can be experienced in both people.,better not taking compliments too seriously. Compliment is a mere pleasantry客套話；禮儀. you dont have to feel the need to explain or bounce-back,A genuine feeling of appreciation is often all thats needed. The more you can enjoy the comp